My Boyfriend Lost His Job...

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So...My Boyfriend recently lost his job due to a layoff. Sincethen...our reelationship has been on the rocks, he has been standoff-ish and i would say depressed. Of course I try to hold him down, And I do love him...though I dont know how else to support him or make things right. Any advice???
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Friend,

Your boyfriend is going through one of the most demoralizing things a man can experience. Not only losing his job, but dealing with not being able to be the “man” for his woman. The state of depression is normal, though it is vital that you do not allow him to fall so deep into the state that it is difficult for him to recuperate. It is important that you stay strong, for him, and your relationship and not feed into the sad feeling. You also definitely don’t want to be the girlfriend who is pressuring him to get a job because “I’m not going to be taking care of no man”, because that only demoralizes him further. Instead, support him…Maybe help him update his resume, or even surprise him and do it for him. Make him feel like you are behind his quest and that this is an opportunity for him to get that fresh start he always wanted. If there were any things he always complained about from his old job, bring them up, get him excited about the opportunity to move on and potentially find a better opportunity. Stick by this man in these troubling times and trust, he will love you like he has never loved before and will always be grateful. This is also an opportunity for you and your man to bond closer emotionally. You never want to argue with him about the situation, though clear, open honest calm communication is key in this period.

Now ladies…Trust, it should be the main priority of this man to find a new gig ASAP! YES…this is a depressing situation for a man, though as a man…you take the punches and roll with them never letting anything get the best of you. You usually are aware of the end of the road at your Job, and should be making plans for the next move prior to the current job is over. Stand by your love, though when you reach the border line of “Love and Foolish”, it might be time to go to plan B, lol. You’ll know the feeling when you hit that line, and if not…Feel free to consult me.

Hope this has helped.

Your…Male Best Friend