After polling countless woman, I've come to the conclusion that the majority of woman would rather be pursued rather than pursuing their counterpart. This mentality follows the historic pattern of "courtship". Though, just as times have changed...so has the premise of the theory. For this post...we will not touch on the idea that woman should at times allow themselves to pursue, but rather...how to react and respond when being pursued by a male that they DO have an interest in.
"The Thrill of the Chase"...is more so an animalistic trait. Though, last I heard...woman are tired of "dogs". This thrill refers to a satisfaction obtained, not by the satisfaction of obtaining what you so adamantly desired, yet...by achieving victory upon the quest which was sought. Usually, this term is used in a negative depiction. So question ladies...How much "chasing" do you want to put the male that is interested in you through?
Before you answer this question...ask yourself first...what are my intentions to begin with, and...what is my worth, measured by the package that you yourself bring to the table to offer. A man genuinely interested in you should be able to pursue you with confidence, yet, most humbly. His confidence will allow him to pursue, though the the humbled ego will realize your worth and MAKE him come with his best foot forward. A man not bringing his best, in your opinion, is either not genuinely interested, or belongs on the B squad to begin with and is not the mate you should be giving the time of day. If you have to force or encourage a man to do more to stimulate you when he is trying to date you seriously, can you expect anything else in the future? This other half we desire to find takes no extra effort in both mental and physical stimulation, its just there! If you find yourself making a man chase a little harder, one of two things are occurring.
1. You have doubts of him being worthy in the first place. My motto to relationships in the beginning stages - "if you have any doubts, just do with out"
2. You are playing games, and you need to check yourself! Modern day men have just as many options as you do, and you will lose out on a good man and push him away by playing boundary games or making him work harder intentionally when you are already feeling him.
Ladies. If you are feeling a guy, and his approach, if you're not vocal enough to say it point blank, at least give him little signs. Only communicating when he reaches out or insisting you hang out when he invites, may make him feel that he is waisting his time.
Last but not least, before I continue on and on...Get rid of your 3 month rule (this applies to anything). Don't set a time frame for heading to the next stage of your interactions. You are a mature adult which has had some life experiences and will have many more to come! Trust your instinct and do what feels right. Follow your mind and heart and don't be afraid to be happy, and let happiness find you. Love like you've never loved before and like pain does not exist. This is the only way to achieve the great, true love.
How do you feel, and can you add any personal experiences to help other woman lose this unhealthy mentality?
Your...Male Best Friend.
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Looking at how my mom and aunties dealt with men, I have learned what NOT TO DO. Plus, I follow the GOLDEN RULE. Why would you play games with someone you are interested in? If you have some concerns it should be expressed through a date. I am not "the current woman" nor am I the "old timer". I am me, and how I deal with men, I deal with respect. If there is a man I am interested in (if I am single that is), then I feel comfortable enough to pursue. I also give men a chance because you can't judge a person by their appearance (although it doesn't hurt to dress according to the environment or to be groomed).
ReplyDeleteCall me old skool.. but if a man truely wants, then he will seek. Not withstanding women doing their part to make a man want that is (wink, wink)
ReplyDeleteMy advice based off of experience, remain somewhat mysterious, don't give it all up before it's time, find the right balance between being an open book and a closed window. Allow passion to dictate the next move, and have no regrets once it's done. I almost guarentee, it'll leave a lasting effect...